A Healing #ecowed
Over 700 tweets and 69 women sharing, supporting and remembering the babies they lost; the sad feelings and road to healing and recovering emotionally and physically. The sponsor Earth Mama Angel Baby launched their new website to help with resources, support via a community and tips for what to say or not say to someone who is suffering the loss of a baby. A topic that most don’t want to talk about but the pain is there and it last night we wanted to be there for others. The courage, guilt, confusion, broken hearts and tears that women suffer exist and when you view the transcript you’ll see as we do: the bravery and healing. Too many tweets to even post but the complete transcript can be viewed here.
| 9:01 pm | 3greenangels: | Welcome everyone to #ecowed with our sponsored host @mamamalinda who has launched http://ow.ly/DyFV to help those cope with the loss of baby |
| 9:01 pm | thesmartmama: | I really like the various products Earth Mama Angel Baby has put together to recognize baby loss #ecowed |
| 9:01 pm | kimatsprig: | @thesmartmama I know exactly! We still believe the loss was due to toxins I came in contact w/ at greenhouse whr I worked #ecowed |
| 9:01 pm | thesmartmama: | Disclosure – This is a party sponsored by Earth Mama Angel Baby #ecowed |
| 9:01 pm | 3greenangels: | #ecowed is going on now, so join us on tweetgrid.com at http://bit.ly/To0FN to discuss #babyloss w/ @mamamelinda -av |
| 9:01 pm | thesmartmama: | @kimatsprig That would make me so mad . . . to wonder whether my workplace caused a baby loss #ecowed |
| 9:02 pm | erinely: | @kimatsprig wow that must have been difficult… #ecowed |
| 9:02 pm | kariellen: | People often forget that it gets harder once the due date occurs #ecowed |
| 9:02 pm | greenNICU_RN: | @mamamelinda Even in the NICU we find it a tough topic to discuss #ecowed |
| 9:02 pm | peekababy: | RT @3greenangels: Welcome everyone to #ecowed with our sponsored host @mamamalinda who has launched http://ow.ly/DyFV to help those cope … |
| 9:02 pm | girlyclown: | @mamamelinda it isn’t just that people don’t talk about #babyloss it is also that there is no preparing for such sorrow. #ecowed |
| 9:02 pm | kimatsprig: | @HCMFirstCandle a good question. not much. a lot of ppl feel that if you lose before birth you should just get over it #ecowed |
| 9:02 pm | 3greenangels: | If anything else tonight can be a way to talk about your loss, remember your baby and get support. Grieving is important for healing #ecowed |
| 9:03 pm | mamamelinda: | @kimatsprig oh no. So not ok. Your workplace should be safe. #ecowed |
| 9:03 pm | Babies411: | I’m getting real-time search results at TweetGrid http://tweetgrid.com/ #ecowed |
| 9:03 pm | erinely: | @kariellen that makes sense, it brings up the loss again in a really immediate way.. #ecowed |
| 9:03 pm | Babies411: | #ecowed |
| 9:03 pm | mamamelinda: | @girlyclown you’re absolutely right. We all assume it’s going to be ok. Every woman wants to count fingers and toes. #ecowed |
| 9:03 pm | erinely: | RT @Babies411: I’m getting real-time search results at TweetGrid http://tweetgrid.com/ #ecowed this works GREAT |
| 9:03 pm | thesoftlanding: | @kimatsprig Wow, Kim – so sorry for you! I also lost a baby during my 3rd month  #ecowed |
| 9:04 pm | kimatsprig: | the one thing I can say though, it has given me a heart for those exp loss no matter when exp #ecowed |
| 9:04 pm | 3greenangels: | I’m getting real-time search results at TweetGrid http://tweetgrid.com/ #ecowed |
| 9:05 pm | kariellen: | @erinely I just wish that I had been more prepared – didn’t realize I hadn’t fully dealt with it #ecowed |
| 9:05 pm | 3greenangels: | RSVP for some great prizes and join the conversation http://bit.ly/1F4Y5B/ #ecowed |
| 9:06 pm | Doodle741: | I am here – late, but here! #ecowed |
| 9:06 pm | surfingmomsc: | Part of my loss (very fresh)is anger. There are legislatures and insurance that does not cover “surgery” after a loss. #ecowed |
| 9:06 pm | thesoftlanding: | RT @3greenangels: RSVP for some great prizes and join the conversation http://bit.ly/1F4Y5B/ #ecowed |
| 9:06 pm | greenNICU_RN: | First time on #ecowed – excited to support @mamamalinda who launched new infant loss site today http://ow.ly/DyFV RT @3greenangels #ecowed |
| 9:06 pm | 3greenangels: | What do you say to someone that has a miscarriage? http://www.babylosscomfort.com/what-do-i-say/ #ecowed #babyloss |
| 9:07 pm | firstcandle: | RT @mamamelinda: “Pregnancy loss affects every single person I’ve ever met… Fully 1/3 of all pregnancies are lost.” #ecowed |
| 9:07 pm | HCMFirstCandle: | I have heard so many different stories, both positive and negative about experiences parents have had after losing a baby. #ecowed |
| 9:07 pm | Babies411: | @erinely sure does #ecowed |
| 9:07 pm | HCMFirstCandle: | Finally here! #ecowed |
| 9:07 pm | thesmartmama: | @kariellen Totally agree-wished I had been more prepared for the grief when I miscarried; really didn’t expect 2 feel that strongly #ecowed |
| 9:08 pm | HCMFirstCandle: | @3greenangels http://firstcandle.org/whenababy/when_cop_fr.html #ecowed |
| 9:08 pm | 3greenangels: | OR what NOT to say when someone has suffered a loss of their baby: “It was God’s will.” #ecowed #babyloss |
| 9:08 pm | PRMama_EMAB: | Welcome to one of our experts — @kariellen. She’s mom to 3 boys, has a kick butt blog and lost a baby in March. #ecowed |
| 9:08 pm | thesmartmama: | Statistics via March of Dimes suggests that between 20 and 50 percent of all pregnancies end in miscarriage/stillborn #ecowed |
| 9:08 pm | Babies411: | @3greenangels I’m here for you. Let me know how I can help u thru this #ecowed |
| 9:08 pm | PRMama_EMAB: | RT @greenNICU_RN: @mamamelinda Even in the NICU we find it a tough topic to discuss #ecowed |
| 9:08 pm | kimatsprig: | @TheSoftLanding I don’t think it is easy, ever. No matter when loss happens. As moms, we love them the moment we know #ecowed |
| 9:08 pm | mamamelinda: | Death is a subject that few people are comfortable talking about. But women who are grieving the death of their child need to talk. #ecowed |
| 9:09 pm | erinely: | @3greenangels yeah, I don’t really like that either, I can’t imagine saying that to anyone… #ecowed |
| 9:09 pm | Doodle741: | @thesmartmama @kariellen Agree-wished I had been prepared for the grief when I miscarried; really didnt expect 2 feel that strongly #ecowed |
| 9:09 pm | thesmartmama: | @greenNICU_RN Welcome to #ecowed. This is a much heavier topic than we usually discuss. |
| 9:09 pm | theecochic: | RT @3greenangels: RSVP for some great prizes and join the conversation http://bit.ly/1F4Y5B/ #ecowed |
| 9:09 pm | bluefroggie: | hi everyone, what an important and hard topic tonight. i’m catching up on the tweets. #ecowed |
| 9:09 pm | kariellen: | @PRMama_EMAB Thanks for the welcome! #ecowed |
| 9:10 pm | HCMFirstCandle: | First Candle continues to have problems dealing wth the “outside” world b/c our mission is to stop infant mortality. #ecowed |
| 9:10 pm | 3greenangels: | Wow @mamamelinda the Remembrance page is making me cry! http://www.babylosscomfort.com/remembering-baby/ #ecowed #babyloss |
| 9:10 pm | Babies411: | @greenNICU_RN: but unfortunately something we have to discuss #ecowed |
| 9:10 pm | thesoftlanding: | @kimatsprig I agree! I also knew the instant I lost the baby. #ecowed |
| 9:10 pm | Doodle741: | @3greenangels It helped me to think that it was part of a greater plan … I would have slapped someone if they had said it to me. #ecowed |
| 9:10 pm | carrielogic: | One hard part is the lack of acknowledgment of the life that was lost. You don’t get a birth cert., you get a fetal death cert. #ecowed |
| 9:10 pm | firstcandle: | @thesmartmama There are about 26,000 stillbirths in the United States annually #ecowed |
| 9:10 pm | theecochic: | I’m getting real-time search results at TweetGrid http://tweetgrid.com/ #ecowed |
| 9:11 pm | kimatsprig: | @mamamelinda absolutely, and have a community of ppl around who understand how they feel and don’t diminish it #ecowed |
| 9:11 pm | greenmom: | I tried for 1 yr. to have my son with fertility – the doctor said I might have lost a baby a few times but it was too early to know. #ecowed |
| 9:11 pm | HCMFirstCandle: | FC has a section on our site firstcandle.org about what to say and what NOT to say! #ecowed |
| 9:11 pm | kariellen: | @carrielogic some of us don’t even get that – there is nothing tangible to look at, go to #ecowed |
| 9:11 pm | PRMama_EMAB: | Or they don’t know whether to bring it up. RT @kariellen: People often forget that it gets harder once the due date occurs #ecowed |
| 9:11 pm | 3greenangels: | @carrielogic That is so sad. =( #ecowed #babyloss |
| 9:11 pm | mamamelinda: | Thank you for being here, @greenNICU_RN, @Babies411 @firstcandle. You deal with loss every single day #ecowed |
| 9:12 pm | Doodle741: | Good to know! RT @HCMFirstCandle: FC has a section on our site firstcandle.org about what to say and what NOT to say! #ecowed |
| 9:12 pm | PRMama_EMAB: | RT @girlyclown: it isn’t just that people don’t talk about #babyloss it is also that there is no preparing for such sorrow. #ecowed |
| 9:12 pm | MommasintheHous: | Here to show my support! My own mother miscarried 8 times and my younger brother passed when he was 3 months old. #ecowed |
| 9:12 pm | 3greenangels: | @blogher on losing a baby via miscarriage or stillbirth http://bit.ly/3Hgt3K #ecowed #babyloss |
| 9:12 pm | greenNICU_RN: | @3greenangels: what NOT to say after the loss of a baby: “It was Gods will.” #ecowed Also don’t say “atleast you have other kids” #ecowed |
| 9:12 pm | bluefroggie: | RT @3greenangels: What do you say to someone that has a miscarriage? http://bit.ly/nBXY8/ #ecowed #babyloss #ecowed |
| 9:12 pm | theecochic: | I have a 6yo and a 10mo…and one baby in heaven 2 yrs ago…lost it at @ 11 wks #ecowed |
| 9:12 pm | thesmartmama: | @MommasintheHous Welcome to our #ecowed party tonight. |
| 9:12 pm | Babies411: | @mamamelinda these resources are gr8! Thx for all that u r doing http://bit.ly/PLt2k #ecowed |
| 9:13 pm | theecochic: | I didn’t think I was at risk or know how normal miscarriages are. #ecowed |
| 9:13 pm | 3greenangels: | If you’ve lost a baby join this supportive community http://www.babylosscomfort.com/healing-hearts-community/ #ecowed #babyloss |
| 9:13 pm | PRMama_EMAB: | RT @mamamelinda: Pregnancy loss affects every single person I’ve ever met. Fully 1/3 of all pregnancies are lost. #ecowed |
| 9:13 pm | jacquelynelopez: | wow! omg I had no idea this was happening to so many #ecowed |
| 9:13 pm | theecochic: | I also wasn’t prepared for how hard it was going to be. #ecowed |
| 9:13 pm | thesmartmama: | @theecochic Thank you for sharing tonight #ecowed |
| 9:13 pm | thesoftlanding: | @greenNICU_RN Welcome to #ecowed Kathi – so glad you could make it! |
| 9:13 pm | PRMama_EMAB: | We all need a safe place to tell our story. #ecowed |
| 9:13 pm | firstcandle: | @HCMFirstCandle Yes, we do. We are also close to launching a new website: new look, new content. #ecowed |
| 9:13 pm | rachelmarshall: | RT @FirstCandle: @thesmartmama There are about 26,000 stillbirths in the United States annually #ecowed |
| 9:13 pm | HCMFirstCandle: | @mamamelinda we often tell people to continue talking about the baby. Families like to think of their baby and don’t want to forget #ecowed |
| 9:13 pm | kariellen: | RT @greenNICU_RN: @3greenangels: what NOT to say after the loss of a baby: don’t say “a tleast you have other kids” #ecowed agreed! |
| 9:13 pm | thesoftlanding: | RT @mamamelinda: Thank you for being here, @greenNICU_RN, @Babies411 @firstcandle. You deal with loss every single day #ecowed |
| 9:13 pm | serenemoments2: | #ecowed |
| 9:14 pm | Doodle741: | When I miscarried last, I lost too much blood, and the hospital didn’t have room anywhere else, so i was put on the L&D floor. HARD! #ecowed |
| 9:14 pm | serenemoments2: | @greenNICU_RN My first too #ecowed |
| 9:14 pm | thesmartmama: | I have always been pro choice, & I didn’t realize the absolute grief at miscarrying; seemed contradictory #ecowed |
| 9:14 pm | Doodle741: | Agreed! RT @PRMama_EMAB: We all need a safe place to tell our story. #ecowed |
| 9:14 pm | Babies411: | @mamamelinda thx mama. here 4 all mamas suffering loss #ecowed |
| 9:14 pm | bluefroggie: | RT @rachelmarshall: RT @FirstCandle: @thesmartmama There are about 26,000 stillbirths in the United States annually #ecowed |
| 9:14 pm | greenNICU_RN: | @mamamelinda I have always considered it a privilege to be there with families who are facing death and loss head on..#ecowed #ecowed |
| 9:14 pm | 3greenangels: | Serious. Necessary. Painful. Our conversation tonight on baby loss but lets get it out there and help each other! #ecowed #babyloss |
| 9:14 pm | HCMFirstCandle: | @Doodle741 WOW. I can’t imagine how difficult that was for you #ecowed |
| 9:14 pm | firstcandle: | @greenNICU_RN http://bit.ly/1kh6Zz Tips for talking to someone who has experienced a loss. #ecowed |
| 9:15 pm | kariellen: | @Doodle741 Oh my gosh that is awful! #ecowed |
| 9:15 pm | mamamelinda: | RT @HCMFirstCandle: we tell people to continue talking about the baby. Families like to think of their baby & dont want to forget #ecowed |
| 9:15 pm | Doodle741: | RT @thesoftlanding RT @mamamelinda Thank you for being here, @greenNICU_RN @Babies411 @firstcandle You deal with loss everyday #ecowed |
| 9:15 pm | jacquelynelopez: | that had to have been difficult @Doodle741 #ecowed |
| 9:15 pm | theecochic: | @Doodle741 I had to sit in the OBGYN office for a while waiting to be seen! Knowing that I had probably miscarried #ecowed |
| 9:15 pm | Doodle741: | RT @3greenangels: Serious. Necessary. Painful. Our conversation tonight on baby loss but lets get it out there and help each other! #ecowed |
| 9:15 pm | 3greenangels: | What is a miscarriage? Medical terms: http://www.americanpregnancy.org/pregnancycomplications/miscarriage.html #ecowed #babyloss |
| 9:15 pm | firstcandle: | @Doodle741 I am so sorry. That must have been horrible for you. #ecowed |
| 9:16 pm | greenNICU_RN: | @serenemoments2 — i hope we get the hang of it quick… so much to read #ecowed #ecowed |
| 9:16 pm | serenemoments2: | @3greenangels I never know what to say #ecowed |
| 9:16 pm | kimatsprig: | @Doodle741 That is so wrong! It is like rubbing your wound with salt… they should have found room 4 u smwhre #ecowed |
| 9:16 pm | PRMama_EMAB: | @MommasintheHous Welcome. We all need friends and family like you! #ecowed |
| 9:16 pm | HCMFirstCandle: | Here are some tips for talking to children about grief: http://firstcandle.org/whenababy/when_cop_child.html #ecowed |
| 9:16 pm | thesmartmama: | @Doodle741 That would have been so hard! #ecowed |
| 9:16 pm | bluefroggie: | A family friend had a still birth. It’s been so difficult for her. #ecowed |
| 9:16 pm | Doodle741: | @HCMFirstCandle It was insane. Luckily, hubby was able to stay with me, I had my own room and was able to go home the next day. #ecowed |
| 9:16 pm | mamamelinda: | Often when women miscarry, they are sent home to heal emotionally. Little, if any, attention is paid to their physical recovery. #ecowed |
| 9:16 pm | bluefroggie: | RT @3greenangels: Serious. Necessary. Painful. Our conversation tonight on baby loss but lets get it out there and help each other! #ecowed |
| 9:16 pm | theecochic: | The OBGYN let me miscarry naturally…that was HORRIBLE! It went on for almost 2 months b4 sideeffects ended. #ecowed |
| 9:16 pm | Doodle741: | @theecochic (((HUG))) I can’t imagine. #ecowed |
| 9:16 pm | 3greenangels: | @theecochic That is horrible and I am so sorry. #ecowed #babyloss |
| 9:16 pm | zealandsmom: | I’m getting real-time search results at TweetGrid http://tweetgrid.com/ #ecowed |
| 9:16 pm | kariellen: | The worst for me was when someone said, well at least you can have more – but I had to have a hysterectomy due to the miscarriage #ecowed |
| 9:17 pm | thesoftlanding: | @theecochic I experienced the same thing, then had to wait a whole week for a D&C afterwards . . . #ecowed |
| 9:17 pm | theecochic: | We had just told our then 5yo…that was hard to explain. #ecowed |
| 9:17 pm | serenemoments2: | @theecochic that’s horrible #ecowed |
| 9:17 pm | Doodle741: | @theecochic why?! #ecowed |
| 9:17 pm | jacquelynelopez: | I have never lost a baby or had a miscarriage but I got a big scare this last time #ecowed |
| 9:17 pm | bluefroggie: | @theecochic Oh, I’m so sorry to hear that #ecowed |
| 9:17 pm | kariellen: | I also had had a tubal ligation so I shouldn’t have been preg so people thought I should be relieved? #ecowed |
| 9:17 pm | GeminiJoanLANY: | RT @thesmartmama Stats via March of Dimes suggests that between 20 and 50 percent of all pregnancies end in miscarriage/stillborn #ecowed |
| 9:17 pm | Doodle741: | @kariellen (((hug))) I am so sorry! #ecowed |
| 9:17 pm | HCMFirstCandle: | there are so many reasons that a miscarriage could’ve happened that professionals don’t even know where to begin. #ecowed |
| 9:17 pm | greenNICU_RN: | YES! RT @kimatsprig @Doodle741 That is so wrong! It is like rubbing your wound with salt… they should have found room 4 u smwhre #ecowed |
| 9:17 pm | greenmom: | @mamamelinda Physcially what can a woman do to help themselves recover from the loss? #babyloss #ecowed |
| 9:17 pm | jacquelynelopez: | im so sorry @kariellen #ecowed |
| 9:17 pm | theecochic: | @thesoftlanding They never did a D&C! They let me go home and wait it out! It was weeks later when that happened. #ecowed |
| 9:17 pm | lifeonprint: | I’m getting real-time search results at TweetGrid http://tweetgrid.com/ #ecowed |
| 9:17 pm | serenemoments2: | @thesoftlanding just seems so cruel #ecowed |
| 9:17 pm | mamamelinda: | And their pregnant friends find it so difficult to remain friends.RT @bluefroggie: A family friend had a still birth-so difficult. #ecowed |
| 9:18 pm | bluefroggie: | @kariellen Oh, I’m so sorry #ecowed |
| 9:18 pm | firstcandle: | @theecochic That’s a great point: there are physical AND emotional effects. #ecowed |
| 9:18 pm | Doodle741: | @theecochic Telling siblings is SO hard .. #ecowed |
| 9:18 pm | theecochic: | @Doodle741 I really don’t know why. I didn’t go back to that OB with next pregnancy. #ecowed |
| 9:18 pm | Babies411: | @serenemoments2 mama has some gr8 suggestions http://www.babylosscomfort.com/what-do-i-say/ #ecowed |
| 9:18 pm | greenmom: | RT @3greenangels: Serious. Necessary. Painful. Our conversation tonight on baby loss lets get it out there and help each other! #ecowed |
| 9:18 pm | kariellen: | @Doodle741 hugs back at you – we aren’t alone #ecowed |
| 9:18 pm | Doodle741: | @theecochic I was SOOOO scared about a D&C … I am so thankful that they didn’t do it! #ecowed |
| 9:18 pm | serenemoments2: | I had many complications carrying my son. Started labor at 4 1/2 months then ever 2 weeks. Delivered a month early #ecowed |
| 9:18 pm | Doodle741: | @bluefroggie Give her a (((HUG))) from me! #ecowed |
| 9:19 pm | jacquelynelopez: | i was toldfor a couple of weeks that i might not have a baby cause they couldn’t see a heart beat #ecowed |
| 9:19 pm | Doodle741: | @theecochic I don’t blame you! I wouldn’t have either! #ecowed |
| 9:19 pm | thesoftlanding: | RT @Babies411: @serenemoments2 mama has some gr8 suggestions http://www.babylosscomfort.com/what-do-i-say/ #ecowed |
| 9:19 pm | serenemoments2: | @Babies411 thank you! #ecowed |
| 9:19 pm | theecochic: | The first year was difficult but now I have a 10mo old baby girl and I’ve moved on. I have friends who are still haunted by MCs. #ecowed |
| 9:19 pm | HCMFirstCandle: | its amazing the different stories i’ve heard from horrible OBs to OBs that have become champions of the cause #ecowed |
| 9:19 pm | kariellen: | @bluefroggie thank you – it helps to talk about it sometimes #ecowed |
| 9:20 pm | jacquelynelopez: | i was devistated! but thankfully the baby was there and very much alive #ecowed |
| 9:20 pm | erinely: | @theecochic wow, that is harsh, seems strange they would do it that way… #ecowed |
| 9:20 pm | mamamelinda: | And? All ok? RT @serenemoments2: I had complications carrying my son. Started labor 4 1/2 months then ever 2 weeks. Delivered early #ecowed |
| 9:20 pm | 3greenangels: | I’ve had people ask how can they tell or be sure? According to the NY Times symptoms of a miscarriage http://ow.ly/DyUx #ecowed #babyloss |
| 9:20 pm | jacquelynelopez: | i couldn’t imagine losing a baby no matter what the circumstance #ecowed |
| 9:20 pm | serenemoments2: | I would guess it’s much harder the longer you carry. I would be devastated from day 1 though. I think #ecowed |
| 9:20 pm | bluefroggie: | @mamamelinda Yes, that’s so true. #ecowed |
| 9:20 pm | Babies411: | @theecochic so glad that ur heart is healing and full of love w ur 10 month old…hugs #ecowed |
| 9:21 pm | Doodle741: | @theecochic When we lost the last (i have miscarried 3 times) my MIL started crying when we told her … #ecowed |
| 9:21 pm | girlyclown: | I think that hospitals are 4 the most part r doing their best. I would have prefered being on the maternity floor #ecowed #babyloss |
| 9:21 pm | serenemoments2: | @mamamelinda Yes, he was jaundiced but 7 lbs. 7 oz. – I just hated they gave him (me) so many drugs to “help” #ecowed |
| 9:21 pm | thesoftlanding: | @theecochic Wow! I guess as a nurse I knew I didn’t have to wait, so I insisted after a week. That was enough suffering in waiting #ecowed |
| 9:21 pm | Doodle741: | @theecochic I felt betrayed – like it was my pain and why should she cry … #ecowed |
| 9:21 pm | bluefroggie: | @kariellen Yes, talking about it definitely helps. Did you have people that you could talk to about it? #ecowed |
| 9:21 pm | Babies411: | @serenemoments2 what drugs? #ecowed |
| 9:22 pm | serenemoments2: | @mamamelinda we were lucky. Last labor we were both dying when we were rushed in for an emergency c-section #ecowed |
| 9:22 pm | theecochic: | @Doodle741 3X…that’s rough! I’m not sure I would be emotionally strong enough for that! #ecowed |
| 9:22 pm | 3greenangels: | Do we ever really know WHY? #ecowed #babyloss |
| 9:22 pm | greenNICU_RN: | Yes.. finding someone to talk to about it is the hard part.. that is why the new site is SO important @mamamelinda @HCMFirstCandle #ecowed |
| 9:22 pm | kariellen: | @Doodle741 there are so many emotions #ecowed |
| 9:22 pm | mamamelinda: | @serenemoments2 Oh but he’s ok. At least he was ok. #ecowed |
| 9:22 pm | PRMama_EMAB: | Unlike childbirth/labor, we don’t know much about miscarriage or what our options are. Hard to advocate for ourselves. #ecowed |
| 9:22 pm | theecochic: | @thesoftlanding I just put my trust in them…but as a working and traveling mom that was the wrong place for trust! #ecowed |
| 9:22 pm | bluefroggie: | Oh ladies, thanks for sharing your stories. Big hugs to all of you! #ecowed |
| 9:22 pm | carrielogic: | @kariellen That’s awful I had something similar last time as I got pregnant unexpectedly with an IUD. #ecowed |
| 9:22 pm | kimatsprig: | @Doodle741 I am so sorry. I have lost 2, how can we support you now? #ecowed |
| 9:22 pm | serenemoments2: | @Babies411 steroids for him through my belly, then pills and drips to stop labor #ecowed |
| 9:23 pm | kariellen: | @bluefroggie I made a wonderful friend @PRMama_EMAB never met IRL but she was there to talk to and I have been so grateful #ecowed |
| 9:23 pm | serenemoments2: | @mamamelinda Absolutely. He is 19 years old now! My pride and joy! #ecowed |
| 9:23 pm | theecochic: | @thesoftlanding It could have happened naturally anytime…on a plane…on a trip…anywhere! #ecowed |
| 9:23 pm | HCMFirstCandle: | @PRMama_EMAB First Candle is working on that!! #ecowed |
| 9:23 pm | Doodle741: | @theecochic LOL! … we have 2 beautiful boys, but we aren’t going to gave anymore. I don’t think I could handle another loss. #ecowed |
| 9:23 pm | firstcandle: | @greenNICU_RN It’s a great site! We’d love your feedback when we relaunch. #ecowed |
| 9:23 pm | 3greenangels: | Newsweek address the mysteries of miscarriages http://www.newsweek.com/id/104816 #ecowed #babyloss |
| 9:24 pm | greenNICU_RN: | @girlyclown That is interesting…Why would you have preferred the maternity area? We are taught to move moms away after a loss #ecowed |
| 9:24 pm | theecochic: | @Doodle741 It was an eye opener for my whole family! I didn’t realize how normal it was! #ecowed |
| 9:24 pm | kariellen: | @carrielogic I don’t blame them – I just wish people would think a little bit before talking #ecowed |
| 9:24 pm | 3greenangels: | I really like the idea of the Light of My Life Candle http://www.babylosscomfort.com/baby-loss-comfort/ #ecowed #babyloss |
| 9:24 pm | thesmartmama: | I was in a car accident with my son at 29 weeks and spent 4 days in labor (trying 2 stop it on magnesium sulfate) #ecowed |
| 9:24 pm | Babies411: | @serenemoments2 sometimes (unfortunately) these meds r needed. Is ur baby ok? #ecowed |
| 9:24 pm | Doodle741: | @kimatsprig I am so sorry! (((Hug))) I am doing ok … how are you? When I see babies, I think I want another, but then I don’t. #ecowed |
| 9:24 pm | spiritedmoms: | I have a 12yo, 9yo, 7yo & a baby I lost to stillbirth at 38 weeks gestation(cord accident, would have been 14 this month). #ecowed #babylosd |
| 9:24 pm | bluefroggie: | @Doodle741 Thank you, I will. So sorry to hear about the loss of your little ones. #ecowed |
| 9:24 pm | serenemoments2: | @3greenangels it’s up to God #ecowed |
| 9:24 pm | thesmartmama: | I was so terrified I was going to lose him the whole time after the 2 miscarriages . . .it was awful; my nurse was wonderful #ecowed |
| 9:24 pm | mamamelinda: | And look at how impacting 19 yrs later! RT @serenemoments2: Absolutely. He is 19 years old now! My pride and joy! #ecowed |
| 9:25 pm | bluefroggie: | @kariellen That’s great. How did you “meet” her? #ecowed |
| 9:25 pm | zealandsmom: | @thesmartmama Oh my!! #ecowed |
| 9:25 pm | theecochic: | @Doodle741 I knew we were done after our 10m DD! 2 is enough for me! #ecowed |
| 9:25 pm | HCMFirstCandle: | @kariellen it’s lack of education and understanding #ecowed |
| 9:25 pm | PRMama_EMAB: | There’s no more or less devastated when you’ve lost a baby. No number of days old or any situation makes it easier. #ecowed |
| 9:25 pm | serenemoments2: | @Babies411 yes, it all turned out ok when all was said and done . He’s 19. #ecowed |
| 9:25 pm | 3greenangels: | Reading all of these tweets makes me so glad we have Twitter and friends online to listen and support oneanother. #ecowed #babyloss |
Tackling a very difficult subject – losing a baby for #ecowed
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At this Wednesday’s #ecowed Twitter party on November 18, 2009, we will tackle a very difficult subject – losing a baby, whether by miscarriage or at full term. The holiday season can be exceptionally difficult for those that have lost a baby. And trying to reach out and comfort those friends or family members can feel awkward and uncomfortable.
What do you say to a woman who has lost a baby?
How do you offer comfort?
Our sponsor, Earth Mama Angel Baby, has a wonderful website to help answer those questions – Healing Hearts, Baby Loss Comfort. EMAB created Baby Loss Comfort to help provide real support as well as emotional comfort and resource information for women who have experienced baby loss from miscarriage to stillbirth.
Before I had my son, I suffered two miscarriages. The first was very early on – basically, right after I had a positive home pregnancy test kit result. But the second was at 10 and 1/2 weeks or so, after I had seen the heartbeat during my ultrasound exam. I was devastated. However, I really had a difficult time expressing the loss because nobody knew I was pregnant. I started bleeding at work, very early in the morning, and I couldn’t really tell people I was losing a baby that I didn’t have yet, if that makes sense. I had to grieve, but I really couldn’t.
EMAB’s Baby Loss Comfort site has tons of resources to help women and their partners that have lost a baby, as well as information for friends and family. There is also a remembrance page where people can post their memorials, and it is heart wrenching to read. But oddly comforting. And, finally, there are specially designed gifts to heal and help those that have lost a baby.
Unfortunately, sources vary, but many estimate that approximately 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage; and some estimates are as high as 1 in 3. If you include loss that occurs before a positive pregnancy test, some estimate that 40% of all conceptions result in loss.
Based primarily on information provided by the March of Dimes:
- There are about 4.4 million confirmed pregnancies in the U.S. every year;
- 900,000 to 1 million of those end in pregnancy losses EVERY year;
- More than 500,000 pregnancies each year end in miscarriage (occurring during the first 20 weeks);
- Approximately 26,000 end in stillbirth (considered stillbirth after 20 weeks);
- Approximately 19,000 end in infant death during the first month; and
- Approximately 39,000 end in infant death during the first year.
The statistics are a little scary, but they show that we all probably know somebody that has experienced baby loss. So, come help us talk about this difficult subject on November 18, 2009, at a sponsored #ecowed party from 10 to 11 pm Eastern. And yes, we will have prizes. Just RSVP below to be entered and join us during the party using the #ecowed hashtag.
FTC Disclosure: The November 18, 2009 #ecowed party is sponsored by Earth Mama Angel Baby.
